Recently, I found out that a friend of mine actually deleted me on Facebook. I was curious as to why, but I was not able to find her anymore on Facebook as well, and that was when I suspected that I was not only deleted, but blocked as well~!
Fortunately, I still had her sister’s contact on Facebook, and decided to drop her a message about her sister deleting me on Facebook. From our conversation, I found out that it wasn’t my friend who deleted it, but her extremely jealous boyfriend deleted and blocked almost all her guy friends on Facebook. I find that, a little bit too extreme.
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My friend apologized through her sister.
I was really wondering, is this really necessary? Even to the point of deleting and blocking all of the guy friends on my friend’s Facebook? I find it hard to believe that there are guys who are jealous and overprotective to that extend.
In my humble opinion, I feel that it could in a way suffocate the relationship as the girl would be feeling trapped under the vigilant eyes of her boyfriend. It is as though disallowing her from making any new friends with guys. To me it kinda restrict much of our learning and interacting capabilities.
I for one give freedom to the GF, but of course we had been discussing about this for awhile now and we agree that there should be communication about who we go out with, be it with a guy, or with guys, or with girls. That is how we roll. Seeing that we had built the trust and also the communication between us for years, we already came to an understanding that if we were to go out without each other, we would usually inform the other of whom we are going out with. It is a common rule for the both of us.
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Yes, communication is key. Without communication, there will only be chaos~!
Of course the GF and myself are not perfect either, we had our miscommunication before and resulted in arguments but, we always find a way to work things out for us.
So, do you think, boyfriends should be jealous enough to delete the girlfriend’s guy friends from Facebook?
Drop me a comment on your opinion.
Mmm, as you said, I think the key is communication. Yet let me bring it two steps further – commitment, consistency and character makes a difference too. When we are and stay commited consistently in out behavior and character in a relationship, it’d be more stable. Sounds a lot like insecurity speaking, and it’s really not health for ANY relationships so to speak. Man, how like that? Then marriage time no guys to invite too la all girls only lo.
Well, what you say is quite true. After the communication, it is only then the commitment, consistency and character would make a difference. If there is no communication, the rest will never follow through. Well, I dunno whether there is any reason for the insecurity, but his overcontrolling attitude might make him lose her at the end of the day.
I was lucky enough to get to chat with her online to know more about the situation.
My bestfriend asked me if i was ok with you going for lunch with female colleagues back when u were working in the Big 4. I told her, i had no problem cuz most Big 4 staff are chicks, i prefer it that u have lunch buddies, doesnt matter if its guys or gals, rather not have my dear eat lunch alone
=) Thanks for all the freedom you’ve given me =)
Ahh, yeah, I think I remember you telling me that before. And of course I tell you who are the girls I have lunch with anywayz. Hehehe.
And you are very welcome. Remember we always need to communicate.